Blaming the symptom

MY parents are divorced. Quite happily so.

I’m not ashamed of it and I am not the worse for it.

While it’s fine to empathise with the children – it is a substantial upheaval in their lives – it’s ridiculous to say “no fault” divorce laws are the root cause for the biggest problem facing today’s family unit.

There are a lot of things that help to break down a marriage but divorce legislation, labelled lax by some, is not one of them.

Some people believe that changes to 1975 Family Law Act, allowing individduals to file for divorce after one year of separation, have helped increase the rate of divorce in Australia.

Of course it has helped, but is it the reason for divorce? No, it’s merely bringing to light the number of people in unhappy wedlock.

I would hazard a guess that by the time a married couple consider divorce, it’s not because the application is so easy. I think there’s been some pretty serious problems before their separation.

A Relationships Australia report found the most common reason for marriages ending is due to financial difficulties, followed closely by work demands.

That is followed even more closely by having children.

A divorce is the last resort, a way out of an unhappy situation.

It’s not easy and it’s not a tool designed by “man-hating, family- destroying” feminist devils.

It was the work of the male-dominated government and they – while I sometimes wonder if they’re the anti-Christ myself – seldom have the interests of women at heart.

To blame law reforms, and a perceived lack of morals, as part of a feminist agenda is equivalent to wearing blinkers.

Take them off and have a look around, people.

There are plenty of reasons for marriage breakdown.

Since the 60s and 70s almost everything changed for the husband-wife dynamic. Not as a result of interfering militant feminists, but merely a result of changing times.

Now, both men and women struggle simultaneously to work and raise children.

Divorce is not the preferred option, but in many cases it becomes the only choice. Divorce does not automatically mean the father will lose his children and it does not necessarily force children into adulthood before their time.

To use the old guilt-ridden adage “think what it does to the children” is quite simply pathetic.

Most parents would be thinking about their child first and foremost and to suggest otherwise is a severe slap in the face.

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